An Encouraging Word
By: WebmasterDate: Jan 11, 2015 Tags: School News
The “Talk Back” Cure
Has your child ever had opinions different than yours and verbalized them in a “talking back” kind of way? I believe every child has tried this from time to time. If a child is allowed to question a parent at every turn, it can get quite fatiguing for the parent! Not only that, but the child’s behavior is disrespectful. So, what can a parent do to curb the “talk back” syndrome? One thing I tried when my children talked back to me was to calmly say, “I didn’t ask for extra conversation.” This warns the child in a calm way that their behavior is out of line. Another way I’ve handled talking back is to go silent. If the talking back continued I would say, “Honey, you have a choice. You may stop arguing or you may go to your room.” If they continue I would calmly say, “I’m sorry you’ve made that choice. You may go to your room for __ minutes.” When I argue back that doesn’t work either! I did try that with negative results! I have found that staying in control and quietly dealing with it works much better. Our children know how to push our emotional buttons and they truly want to know we are in charge! We need to help our children develop the character trait of obeying without argument. Here’s a prayer I found in the book Creative Correction by Lisa Whelchel, which gives your child a template of how to pray for help when arguing.
“Dear God, Please forgive me for thinking I am smarter than my parents. You have given me a big brain, and I know I have good reason for wanting things my own way — but I also want the wisdom that comes from trusting and obeying my parents. Help me to be slower to speak, quicker to listen and even quicker to obey without arguing. In Jesus name.” Let’s strive as parents to be godly examples in word, in deed and in conversation! Let’s show our children God this week!
I am praying for you!